During
my darkest moments while transitioning to the end of my marriage, I had a
spiritual detox—a full confession of everything that ailed me spiritually. I furiously wrote in my journal EVERYTHING
that I needed God to remove from my heart, my mind and soul. I mean EVERYTHING. I wrote down generational curses, past hurts,
secrets and anything I could think of that I thought caused the breakdown in my
marriage. I prayed that if I came clean
of all of my emotional and spiritual ailments, that it would save my
marriage. I was completely wrong—IT SAVED
ME! God was really up to something
greater.
While
detoxing, I confessed a soul tie that I had carried from a previous
relationship. Pause: this soul tie was not
reason that my marriage ended. Soul ties are formed when souls are knit together;
the bible references as becoming one flesh.
The knitting can be emotional, sexual or created by a vow. Soul ties can be very unhealthy if created in
an ungodly manner. 1 Corinthians 6:16
says “Or do you know that he who is joining to a prostitute becomes one body
with her? For, as it is written, “The
two will become one flesh.” This
illustration does not refer to prostitution—it’s a biblical reference to
fornication. So, let’s not get
comfortable with this doesn’t apply to you.
Soul ties can be beautiful when you are tied to the one person that God
has ordained you to be with. Ephesians
5:31 says “Therefore a man shall leave this father and mother and hold fast to
his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”
I refer to Scriptures to validate becoming “one flesh.” (Read the Word
for your own understanding. You may hear from God about your own detox.)
Soul
ties fill a void in your heart and soul.
As I managed my depression on a daily basis so did I manage my soul
tie. I didn’t talk about it. I didn’t write about. I didn’t wear it on my sleeve. Please
understand that my soul tie was an emotional one. I still loved this person. It was when things went wrong in my marriage,
I would think about what my life would be like if I was with him. I’m
human. Anger, frustration,
depression will make your mind think about a lot of ungodly thoughts. It was the desire to know what my life would
be like if we were still together or how I yearned for the same type of love we
had together. The devil can make your brokenness
so convenient.
I
never reached out to my soul tie during my marriage. There was one phone call
from him but nothing that was more than how are you and how’s the family. Click!
In my mind that would have been cheating
or very close to it! Seemingly harmless?
Yes, but it cracks the doors to a lot of other spirits to invade your
relationship/marriage and relationship with Jesus. I decided to shut the windows and doors and
seal every crack. It started with me—I repented.
Repenting
is very hard to do. It requires you to
become naked about what is spiritually, emotionally and physically destroying
you. There I stood spiritually naked
before God pouring out my soul. I asked
him to cut every soul tie, break every curse and destroy every ungodly
bond. Detoxing! I rid my soul of
anything that I felt was getting in the way of my marriage and relationship with
God. It was exhausting yet liberating.
My
confession is why I haven’t rushed into another relationship. I shared my life with someone for about 14 years
and had a child from the union. There is still a connection. I’m working through another spiritual and
emotional detox. (Reread my post
Traveling Without Baggage again for a refresher.)
What
is your soul tied to? Untie the one
thing that is keeping you from being I’mPossible. You owe it to yourself and God.
#spiritualdetox
#confessionofasoultie #I’mPerfectlyhonestandI’mokay
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